What is hate reading you might ask. Well according to the Dictionary.com it is
Basically you’re actively visiting a site on the web just so you can bitch about the individual associated.
It’s a very vicious activity but we all do it, the scary thing is we might not realise we’re actually doing it.
This post was inspired by an article I read in Stellar Magazine (June 2016 issue). Truth be told I had never even heard of the term hate reading let alone know what it was. After reading the article I realised that I probably do it too, maybe not every day and I can’t think of a particular page I do it to, not that I’d even say, but I know I do it.
Now don’t get me wrong it doesn’t mean we’re bad people. The cause of this just falls back on natural human behaviours that are jealousy, curiosity, and boredom.
While the internet has opened up a lot of wonderful doors it has as we’re all aware of released our inner monsters.
We’ve become accustomed to the selfie upload (which I do myself) and wait in anticipation for the likes to roll in. Don’t lie you do it too. And I probably won’t stop because ya if i’m feeling my look then I will. The issue here is when we start to view and critique others. Ooh look at the liner FAIL, why is her head tilted so far left FAIL lol poser, wow he’s so into himself-get over it.
Now thinking these thoughts is one thing. But going out of your way to seek out these pages just so you can critique them is another. You may be the nicest person, the most loyal friend and a devoted family member but you are not bettering yourself as a person by these actions. It makes you more conceited, judgmental and inhibits your ability to not base your opinion of a person besides their insta page or twitter feed or even criticising them from your first impression.
Believe me because this is true, because I was like this. Over the last couple of years, from being influenced by those around me (I went to all girl school-think that speaks for itself) and social media I became more judgemental. I did the above in my head, I never said it to their faces but I did bitch A LOT. Now 18 and in college I’ve told myself to grow up, cop on and get over myself, because a judgmental personality is an ugly personality. I tried to mask it as best I could, but I’m pretty sure my poker face wasn’t always on point. In fact it’s ended up hurting me now, well they do say karma’s a bitch only if you are!
However the one thing I never did, and never will is give into the hate read temptation and actually post my thoughts.
This is where things have gone too far and you can’t defend yourself with Oh its just an innocent thought, no, because now its an action. This is where you’ve actually crossed the line over to being an online troll, a bully.
Now most people wouldn’t consider themselves bullies but this is where our idea of what a bully is needs to be fully understood. If you go out of your way to publicly humiliate someone and attempt to make them feel bad about themselves then yes you are a bully. It’s all about the choices we make. They chose to post what they did, it’s their right. But you chose to speak out negatively. Just because they posted doesn’t mean they gave you permission to say what you said.
If you wouldn’t say it to their face or scream it in a room full of people, then why is it ok to say it online.
Stick to this to check yourself; If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.