Blogging.

Hello Lovelies.

Happy Sunday. I’m feeling creative today so I really wanted to get the laptop out and get typing.

I had this conversation earlier with my brother about blogging. He made the comment that blogging has become almost annoying as today, everyone and their mother call themselves bloggers.

This is something that put me off blogging for ages, and still sometimes does as I am reluctant to tell anyone that I have a blog.

You see I never like doing what everyone is doing. I like to do my own thing, be my own person in so many ways.

But I really like the idea of blogging. I love bloggers who pour their hearts out to their online readers. I love the opportunity of connecting with others across the world whom I have shared interests. I love that it’s a place where you can literally do/write anything.

The thing I don’t like is the way blogging is perceived. It’s not exactly a respected hobby/profession.

I’ve also found it hard to even figure out what I want to do with my blog. I’m not really sure which genre it follows or what type of things I want to talk about. To me my blog is still new and I’m still figuring out how this all works.

I know I want to bring content that causes people to think more about something and chat about something new. I’d love to build a great discussion in the comments section. I know I’ve uploaded posts about “the ideal summer” or “DIY Facial scrub” or even a couple shopping posts, but looking at them now I know they aren’t things I want to share here.

So sorry if you enjoyed them, there won’t really be any more.

What I imagine my blog to be is like a magazine. Full of articles regarding different topics,basically human interest pieces and real news.

I really don’t know how long I’ll last here, maybe I’ll keep going for years and maybe this will be the last post. (But probably not though) 🙂

I really want to be a sort of Carrie Bradshaw type. I just want to type out a post as the thoughts come to my mind. Real life pondering from an 18 y/o Irish girl. Honesty and definitely realism.

I don’t care about the stats or the idea of making this into a business. I’m just here to speak my mind and explore my passion for writing.

Now that we’re into the second half of the year I’m going to consider this a fresh start for my blog. Expect the same but I suppose a little different also 🙂

-G

 

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Should I be bothered?

Hello Lovelies!

I’m not too happy with myself. Since starting my job I’ve all but abandoned my blog. I need to get myself organised and make sure that I have drafts to upload during the week and avoid two weeks going by with nothing.

In one of my last posts I spoke about the summer and how I think it’s a bit over hyped in general.

One thing I referred to was it being know as bikini season. There’s a pressure put on girls every year to get themselves in shape and looking well. This is something I haven’t ever subject myself too. In fact in general I’m quite a lazy person.

I don’t go to the gym, I don’t go for walks/runs everyday and I certainly don’t regular follow along to YouTube fitness videos. In other words, I’m just not bothered.

But now the opposite to what should be the case has happened. (If that makes sense). Instead of getting my body to its fitness peak, I’ve actually gained weight.

This is the first time I’ve ever had a proper realisation that in fact I have gained weight.

I don’t know how much, but I do know that in the last two months my boobs and bum are bigger and my stomach area is definitely not as slim as it once was.

I haven’t really been doing much shopping because not much seems to look good on me right now and even the clothes I do own just don’t feel as good as they did.

It’s one of the hardest things for a girl, I’ll admit that. But I’m still not that bothered.

I know how this has happened and what I can do to fix it but I’m lacking that want/desire, that motivation to do anything.

I haven’t cried about the situation, but that’s partly because its feels wrong to cry about such a thing.And maybe also a little dramatic like is this really a thing to cry about or even just get in any way upset about.

So here’s the thing. Is this an issue? Why am I not more concerned?  Am I just giving in to my lazy nature? denying there is an issue and just making excuses? I guess I’m still happy. Obviously I don’t love that I’ve gained weight but it just isn’t something that I want to do anything about right now.

Am I the only one? Do you guys understand what I’m saying? I didn’t think I’m making much sense to be honest.

I guess I just wanted to share these thoughts because it seems like all people do this time of year is talk about getting that perfect slim body and sharing images of women wearing bikinis- the go to image for inspiration, and inadvertently saying “this will make you happy if you look like this”.

Let me know your thoughts/stories/experiences in the comments below. I’d love to hear from you!

-G

Xo

Let’s celebrate them

Hello Lovelies!

It seems like there’s a lot of negativity directed at women on the internet lately.

It’s something I’m sick of seeing so I decided that on my little part of the internet I want to bring a little positivity and celebrate the great things women are doing.

These are five women doing great things, being amazing girl bosses and in general just not letting the world put them down.

~Marissa Carter~

Owner and founder of Irish brand ‘Cocoa Brown Tan’. Marissa is the real deal #girlboss. I love seeing women be independent and do great things. She’s business savvy and has developed an impressive and popular brand. Her name means something and her business is booming, there’s definitely more to come from this Irish entrepreneur. She had an idea and committed herself to building it.

 

~Louise O’Neill~

An Irish author and regular writer for the Irish Examiner. Louise is definitely someone I find interesting because one of my things to do on my bucket-list is to write and publish a novel. She’s a respected writer in Ireland and speaks her mind. She doesn’t seem to really care for those that criticise her. She’s unapologetic and I really admire that. You’ll know what I mean if you follow her snapchat which if you don’t then you definitely should!

 

~Emma Watson~

There’s definitely more to her than being Hermione Granger. The #heforshe campaign was inspiring. I’m a feminist but unlike some I don’t believe in man hating which is why I liked this campaign so much because it promotes feminism in terms of equality and shares the issue with men, inviting them to have their say and support women’s movement. Watson also has a brain and because of her passion for human rights and education I feel she’s a great role model.

~Victoria Beckham~

The press didn’t take her seriously during and after her Spice girl days but boy did they underestimate her. Victoria re-invented herself, going from popstar to fashion designer and style icon, a well respected individual in the fashion industry. Here’s the thing about life you can do whatever you want, there are always choices and always a chance to change. I love how Victoria took control of her life and used the critics to only spur her forward.

~Betsey Johnson~

And here is number 5. If you don’t know who she is then you mustn’t have any interest in the fashion industry because this is one very influential lady.

Johnson is an American designer.She creates magical pieces that are a mirror of her personality; feminine and whimsical. I’m always inspired by her because after all these years she’s still having fun with fashion.

At age 78, she’s also putting a lot of people to shame- there’s no excuse, she’s running a business and isn’t holding back. 

As a breast cancer survivor this woman is definitely someone to look up to. She enjoys life and celebrates all that comes with it.

Many might judge her let’s call it unique style, especially because of her age. What I say; have you ever seen her in pictures not smiling? She’s confident and doing her own thing. I just love her.


What other women do you love? Who’s done something that wowed you? Who inspires you? Let’s celebrate the great things about women instead of bitching about them.

Let me know in the comments!

-G xo

Is the summer overrated?

my answer-yes.

Hello lovelies.

July is slowly coming to an end and we’re about to be in the last month of the summer. It’s got me thinking about what I’ve done and what I’ve yet to do.

Why is it every year there’s this mission we all feel we must plan to ensure we have the best summer ever!

A summer that will look back on when facebook sends you a throwback reminder in a few years time when we’re in full time work mid 20’s and feeling nostalgic about our youthful days. O.k tad bit dramatic but still everyone seems to want that perfect summer.

Me, I don’t like those three months called the summer. There’s way too much expectation. I also really like having a plan and a routine, so part of me kind of misses being back at college being productive and having something to do everyday.

Then there’s the clothes. Bikini season-need I say any more.

Again the expectation that you should look your best and by your best I mean picture the perfect girls in the magazine articles with the title ‘how to get your summer bod’.

Unless you live anywhere but Ireland then there’s really only going to be a couple days to max two weeks of good decent sunny weather, otherwise get a light raincoat and get used to the rain. That’s right the only tan you’ll get here will be courtesy of Cocoa Brown or one of the other many fake tans.

The desire to do lots and travel is quickly met by the realisation that you need money and the pressure from parents to do more then sleep in all day and go out all night means oh yes it is in fact time to print out the cv’s and find a job. Not easy but with a minimum of 3 months off you don’t have much of a choice.

For someone who has allergies the summer can also mean days of high pollen content in the air and walking around looking like you’ve got the flu in the middle of the summer.sniff sniff- it’s a pain in the booty. Anyone relate to this?

Now to avoid flooding your day with pessimism because of this post, I like to try and also look on the bright side so here’s a couple things I like about the summer.

Iced coffees-oh so basic I know. Getting to wear sunglasses more often, my fave accessory. Time for tv marathons; Friends, Gilmore Girls, Desperate Housewives, there’s time for it all and more. More time in the day. I love how my mornings are brighter and the evenings are longer.And finally, it’s acceptable to eat ice-cream all the time.Well sort of.

So long story short the summer in generally can suck but there’s always something to be positive about. Let me know if you can relate to anything I’ve said or if you are ‘summer loving’ 🙂

-G

xo.

 

Behind the scenes at festivals

Hello Lovelies.

Today I want to talk about festivals, but I’m not going to talk about the latest fashion trends or what to pack for the weekend, I want to talk about our safety at festivals.

One of the things about people when they’re young, and I include myself here when I say that it is common for us to portray naive attitudes. Especially when it comes to our safety.

Nearly every magazine for the last couple of months has printed articles regarding a go-to guide for festival goers. But I actually read an article about the rise of sexual assaults at festivals and the significant amount that probably go on reported.

Why is it that an incident which is life changing and traumatic for anyone, is something which is all too often pushed under the rug. Not long ago I wrote a post about the stanford rape case, which was significance because most of the time the press nor the justice system seem to hear of such incidences because Universities decide to “deal with it internally”, thus protection reputations.

Cosmopolitan magazine UK recently published an article and referred to it as ‘The great festival hush-up” (certainly fitting).

If approached by campaigners festival organisers seem to take a leaf out of many politicians’ book and decline to comment on the matter or arrange a meeting to improve the situation.

If they fail to set up precautions then what does that mean for our safety? We all know it’s a risk when we go but is it a risk we realistically evaluate? Or do we take the easy way of ignoring this and thinking ‘but it wouldn’t happen to me?’. Don’t get me wrong I’m not blaming the victims, it is in no way their fault. But it is time we raised the volume of talk on this issue and pressured the organisers to actually do something to help.

Thankfully one group have used their fame and influence to send a stern message to festival organisers.

Recently Mumford and sons boycotted Swedish festival, Bravalla, after many reports of sexual assaults were made. Five known cases of rape and at least a dozen suspected.

If more musical acts protested against performing unless this topic was taken more seriously and action was made then real effective change might just be seen.

I know we don’t live in a perfect gum drop unicorn rainbow world but still, the amount of times this happens is unacceptable, especially when afterwards the festival does little to support the victim(s). Not even inquiring for witnesses/information, speaking out about the issue to the public and doing their level best to give those the justice they deserve.

But no it’s all about the money. The fear that if they acknowledge this happens then they might lose in ticket sales.

When is money not going to be prioritised over people.

How many more times does this have to happen?

Just ask yourself, what if it was you, or your sister or your friend?

-G

 

Get to know me

Hello Lovelies.

So the very brilliant UK blogger Frankie a.k.a frankiefancies has nominated me to the Liebster award. Frankie posts about health, beauty, food and the things that go on in her life. I’ll leave a link below so please go check her out and share some love with a like or comment on her posts! x

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So for today’s post I’m going to be answering some fun personal questions so you can get a better idea of who I am 🙂

Let’s get started!

What are the top 3 things on your bucketlist?

  1. Before I turn 30 I would like to write and publish a novel.
  2. To live in New York
  3. To create a podcast

Who is your biggest inspiration and why?

Lena Dunham. This is a more recent inspiration but when I read this question she was the first person who popped into my head. I love it when women make things happen for themselves. Independence is something very important to me. I don’t like relying on other people. I firmly believe that if you want something you need to make it happen for yourself and you have to make yourself happy, not to rely on others for happiness. Lena has done so much that inspires me. She’s written and published a novel. She is the creator of the hot U.S show ‘Girls’ and a podcast called ‘Women of the hour’ in which she interviews different influential female friends and relatives of her.

Dunham has also played an active role in the modern feminist movement. She pushes the idea not that women are better than men but that we are just as good as them (equality my friends not superiority). I would love to meet her. She’s such an intelligent funny human and if I could have anyone at a dinner party for example she would definitely be top of the list. I can only hope to achieve half of her success  by the time I’m 30 🙂

Why did you start blogging and what is your favourite thing about it?

As I said I love blogging because of the social aspect to it.To the outside world it can on the surface seem like a very lonely hobby but you and I both know this not to be true. I get such a kick when I see people commenting on my posts and chatting with you. I enjoy meeting people all over the world and sharing thoughts and interests.

I started this blog because I was in college with no job and I was quite lonely and fed up. I felt like I didn’t really have many people to talk to or anything to really do. So I thought hey I love writing why not share the many thoughts and opinions I have. And here we are 6 months later. I may not have many posts but I’m definitely proud of my little part of the internet, I’m definitely not going anywhere just yet so stay tuned for more!

What’s the weirdest thing about you?

I’m a bit of a germaphobe. I don’t share drinks with anyone not even family. I don’t share food off plates. I hate public toilets. I always carry sanitiser. I HATE burps and farts so no I do not do either of those and hate it when I’m around people and they do either.

and yes my family and friends do think I’m nutty. 😀

What is your favourite thing to do in your spare time?

Pinterest! I could scroll for hours searching outfit inspo and Diy’s.

What is your dream career?

A writer either for a magazine or a novelist.

What annoys you?

People who have no manners. Yes I know I sound like such a granny 😀 But seriously I like people to be polite with good etiquette.

What are your short-term goals?

To dedicate myself more to developing my blog, posting more. Hopefully I’ll set up a facebook and snapchat soon also.  I’ve recently gained weight and become quite unfit so by the end of the summer I would really like to get healthy again 😀 And most importantly, get my drivers license!

Some weekend motivation from Karma Athletics! time to sweat off the stress of the week!:

What are your long-term goals?

To come out of college with a 2.1 or 1.1 degree. To move out into my own place. To travel to the west coast of America, I’ve seen the east coast so now I wanna see the other side. I also want to go to Iceland, Italy, India, gosh so many more. To volunteer overseas. To intern at a magazine or newspaper.

so cute! I wanna make this for my room/home...inspire by this picture and PLNU's study abroad sign.:

If you could be anyone else for a day who would you be?

Anna Wintour. I’m a fashion lover. I want to know what’s like to be such an influential figure in the industry and be the editor of a hugely successful fashion magazine, well more like THE fashion magazine.

Who makes you happiest. 

While I do always say you create your own happiness, there is one person that whenever I’m usually not in a bad mood for too long. That would be my cousin, Kate. There is only 11 months between us and we have been very close since we were tiny. We always seem to have a good ole laugh about something.


And that concludes the questions. I’ve probably gone into more detail than was necessary and rambled a bit but sure that’s typical me! 🙂

Thank you so much to Frankiefancies for the nomination!

It was definitely fun but also a little hard to do. You’d think it’d be easy to answer these but some definitely required some thought.

And my nominees are…drumroll please……..

  • Floralesque blog
  • Sophie Samantha blog
  • Rachel holly blog
  • Cliona Hill blog
  • Tu es Belle blog

Each of these ladies have very impressive and stunning blogs so definitely go and check them out, links below!

And here are my questions for them. 🙂

  • What was the idea behind your blog’s name?
  • What 5 people would you invite to a dinner party, dead or alive?
  • What is your favourite item of clothing?
  • Who inspires you and why?
  • What is something embarrassing that you have done or has happened to you?
  • What would your biography be called?
  • What are 3 things you want to achieve by the time you’re 30?
  • Three words that best describe your personality/life?
  • What is your biggest pet peeve/hate?
  • If you could re-create any movie scene what would it be?

Thanks so much again to Frankie for nominating me. I think this is a really fun way to get to know more bloggers, share the love around by helping each other out promoting one another’s blogs and also to allow our readers to get to know us better.

Happy Reading!

-G xo.

P.s I did leave out the facts part because this was already very long, I’ll do it separately.

Links:

https://frankiefancies.wordpress.com/

http://floralesque.com/

https://sophiesamantha.wordpress.com/

https://rachelholly.wordpress.com/

http://www.clionahill.com/

http://tuesbellex.blogspot.ie/

 

Disclaimer. Images are from the blogs mentioned above. Vogue Online and pinterest.

Inspiration vs. Originality

Hello Lovelies.

Today’s topic of discussion is creativity and digital influencers.

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So in the age of the bloggers and vloggers, instagrammers and the youtube famous the issue of creativity;  we’re more often now seeing up and coming creators echo the works of the greater more settled digital influencers.

First of all, up until 5 years ago (in my opinion) blogging wasn’t really a thing. It  certainly wasn’t at the level of popularity it is now.. As for vlogging, well, ‘vlogs’ were actually referred to as ‘follow me around’ videos.

Now that the road has been paved, more and more (including myself) have decided to bring their own voice to the growing circle.

But as is always the case with creativity, sometimes the writers block monster can pop up and desperation kicks in. Imagine a tumbleweed rolling past in your brain, representing a lack of ideas.

You’re stumped. Ya got nothing.NIL. Squat.Nada…    (Ok I think you get the point.)

It’s so easy to look to other outlets for inspiration, and get ideas that aren’t exactly truly yours.

On the other-hand, it can also be laziness. Sometimes bloggers/vloggers see another get great success from one post or video or a certain use of editing or music and wham bam! It’s ‘hey that works, guess I’ll do it too’.

A lot of the time people want views. Hey I have a blog I get it. But seriously. I don’t think you’ll get anywhere by mimicking the work of another. Think about it. They got where they are because THEY DID SOMETHING DIFFERENT.

This idea of inspiration vs. originality came to me when I saw a twitter convo take place during the week between a few youtube vloggers.

The topic was youtuber Casey Neistat whose channel has grown by the millions in just a few years. Neistat is very popular for his impeccable, creative and stunning videography skills that produce the most beautiful raw footage. (And also his relaxed cool guy persona)

If you’re into vlogging he is your go-to for motivation and inspiration. However, others have also tried to imitate the youtubers vlogging style from music to angles to edits for their own road to success.

The argument unfolded when fellow youtube vlogger, Steve Booker, called out those who seem to be copycats of Neistat and how disappointing it is. But another twitter user felt Booker’s tweet actually had the potential to negatively affect others who might be considering starting a vlog channel or who are new vloggers.

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Here the conversation unfolds in the following tweets by Booker, Neistat, and another vlogger; George Benson, as well as other fans of the youtubers and twitter users.

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Neistat, who Ivell is actually a fan of, didn’t agree with his point that Booker’s tweet might dissuade other vloggers, felt that copycats ruin youtube.

In my opinion, he has a point. Because copying is pointless. What would people watch your videos when they’ve already got a source for that style content from another well-established channel. The same goes for blogs.

I try to be as original as I can, but I will acknowledge that some of my posts are similar to other pages.

It’s hard as creators to always be unique, Be you not someone else. But sometimes when you really idolise someone, or love what their doing you just want to hop on that trend and get going yourself.

The important thing to remember is that we all bring something different. The internet is a big place and there’s room for all of us.

Success takes time. But you won’t get far if you don’t work in your own style.

You were born an original, so why die a copy?

Love that quote. *Not mine, but I always see it on pinterest.

Here’s to those creative juices flowing! 🙂

-G xo

Who doesn’t love a good debate?

Only me again…

It might sound weird but I actually enjoy arguments. Not like the guy from friends who dated Phoebe and loved everything even getting excited over their first conflict. I’m talking about those heated debates where people let out their passionate side defending their views and opinions.

I’m the youngest in a family of four kids so I have grown up fighting over the noise of the kitchen table to have my voice heard. And then be pushed back down to my sit as my siblings would cry out how inexperienced I was in the topic.

Some people would probably say we’re crazy but as we’ve gotten older these dinner times have only gotten a little more heated and interesting actually because we actually have proper opinions not silly childlike thoughts.

These dinner time debates are one of my favourite things in the world. As my sibs have grown up and moved on beyond the family home I actually find myself slightly bored by dinner time. Sometimes my craving for a good discussion gets the better of me and I end up causing an unnecessary argument due to the fact that I disagree with nearly everything either of my parents say. Mom usually prefers a peaceful dinner- sorry mom.

The  best thing is, everyone eventually has to accept each other’s opinions, we clear the table and retreat back to whatever it was we were doing.

Although there is the occasional  subject that just can’t seem to be let go of and the discussion continues past the dinner table.

 

I love the feeling of power when I’m voice my argument. When someone tries to interrupt you and you just keep going, hearing their point in the background, answering it in your argument (why its wrong) and shutting them down. It’s like when I used to do debating in school and someone would say ‘point of information’. You can either accept or decline their request. It’s lazy to decline and a risk to accept- if you can’t take it don’t give it, i.e if you can’t take the correction or critic then you should never have entered the debate.

The thing that I love about debating is it makes you stronger. You learn to stand up for yourself. Respect other peoples points of view, while at the time making your best attempt at arguing why their wrong. You can learn a lot both about other individuals and other topics. There’s a thrill in the debate. It can both terrify and excite you. Now these are the serious sit down competition debates I’m referring to, not dinner time at the Feeney household.

I remember one morning before school officially started. A group of us were sitting in our usual spot by the radiators on the ground floor. It happened organically, which is the best way for it to happen. Before I knew it we were stuck in a serious discussion about the referendum vote that was coming up in Ireland regarding same sex marriage (2015 vote).

Some of us weren’t yet 18 so we couldn’t vote but it’s not like that would ever stop us from having an opinion. I won’t get into detail about what views we each had or what points we made but it did get very heated-in a healthy way, don’t worry there was no cat fight with hair being pulled out. I will say though when some of the teachers walked by they didn’t even want to attempt to tell us to settle down, we were in it, probably a little intimidating to the younger years ( we were 6th years/most senior class).

Haha this blog post has almost got me a little riled up and I have to have the daily family dinner time after this 😀 I can’t wait to see how that goes after this.

If there’s one thing I’d love it would be that you go off and ask the big questions. Start a healthy debate once in a while.  Sound off below, I’d love to chat to you all.

Bye Lovelies!

-G xo

Alexa Chung and a very jealous Mum

Yes I know you got excited by the mention of style icon Alexa Chung in the title but then words failed you when you saw the mention of mum- no I’m not referring to her own mother in case you were wondering.

The latest fashion project of the 32 y/o British fashion model is a clothing line with M&S called ‘Archive’.

M&S, established in 1884, tasked the fashion guru with exploring their archives of clothing past and designing a collection that both celebrated the brand’s history and reassembled how far they’ve come marrying both old and current trends. The collection is very unique and it’s definitely one of the most special projects Chung has been part of as she says herself.

I’ve always loved Alexa Chung. Her cool, lady like cool chic style is so stylish and effortless. In fact during my French Oral exam I discussed the topic of Fashion and actually spoke about Alexa as my style icon. I’m obsessed with shirt collars and so this is definitely one style we both share, but obviously only one of us looks to the other for inspo.

    

    

However not everyone is a fan of Chung. British mum and blogger, Alison Stankard has come forward with an alternative campaign idea for the British Retail brand. Stankard is the creator of blog ‘Totes Inappropes’. The blog focuses on parenting and fashion in a very light-hearted humorous tone. This mom of three doesn’t take herself too seriously, and readers warm to her thanks to her funny personality and quirky personal style.

Stankards view is that M&S should be using models who are real everyday people and she puts herself forward for the job. In her open letter to M&S on Facebook she pitches herself saying “I can advertise your bastion of British style in a none threatening size 12 warts and all kind of way”. Ya gotta give the momma props for her confidently and bravely selling herself openly on social media.

PA mother-of-three has posted a hilarious plea to M&S to model their clothes, in a bid for them to ditch their 'perfect' models like Alexa Chung - claiming she'd be a better fit for the job, warts and all.

As she puts it Chung is “very edgy and cool and let’s face it, everybody would like to be her but let’s be honest we are all a bit sick with envy at her. I mean she’s got near perfect legs and is so beautiful that Alex Turner has written a whole album about how he hasn’t got over her yet.”

Oh Yes people she did she went there with the break-up.

I love Alexa but this woman is hilarious so I find it dislike her or say she’s being ridiculous. She says she regularly shops there and it would be very cool if M&S teamed up with a blogger mom for a clothing line.

Here’s the full post:

Comment below your thoughts on this pitch? And also your opinions on the ‘Archive’ collection.

Later Lovelies,

-G xo

 

 

*Photo credits to M&S page, dailymail.co.uk and Alison Stankard’s facebook page.
Check out ‘Totes Inappropes’ facebook page:
https://www.facebook.com/totesinappropes123/
The Alexa Chung and Marks and Spencer’s collection ‘Archive’:
http://www.marksandspencer.com/l/women/alexa-chung/alexa-chung-collection

 

 

Something needs to change.

Unless you don’t fall into the millions who have accounts on social media, and/or don’t pay attention to international news you won’t have heard of the Stanford Rape case that has recently taken place.

This week has seen a positive effect of social media. I spoke about a negative side to social media in post about Hate Reading. But, this time a victims story was heard, recognised and shared-an many pushed for her justice.

Social Media has erupted and people are using the loud voice that these apps have given them, to share their thoughts on the judgement and sentencing given. 

A Student and member of the elite swim team at Stanford University sexually assaulted a fellow female student, while she was unconscious due to excessive alcohol consumption, in front of witnesses. His punishment; six months in jail.

The last few years have revealed that American Universities have a serious lack of fair dealing of cases of sexual assaults on campus. One could say they even brush the matter under the rug.

Now o.k yes I don’t attend a U.S college nor have I ever lived in the U.S so I don’t really know first hand what goes in these colleges, but the stories the press has published over the years, detailing the horrific rape accounts and astonishing ways in which these victims were not protected by their college leaders, instead made to feel like they were the problem, an inconvenience to the University, creating unwanted hassle.

How do we change this? Because the issue here isn’t just how colleges deal with these matters, but how the world deals with these matters. Abuse of any kind to the woman is not always met with justice.

Look at Amber Heard. She announces that she has been physically assaulted by her husband, actor Johnny Depp and the world shuts the door in her face, labelling her a liar, gold digger etc…

No one believes that the charismatic, handsome, popular man could ever do such a thing. NEWS FLASH no one knows what goes on behind closed doors. It’s been released by the media that Depp has had a problem with alcohol and drugs. We all know we’re capable of doing a lot when under the influence of these.

Of course he’s family will defend him, and ya innocent until proven guilty-sure, I mean that’s fair. But where’s fairness when it comes to Heard. Why is she being made to feel like the evil one in this situation. Ya maybe she’s lying and just after his money. Or maybe she really is a woman who feels vulnerable, scared and deeply hurt from being seriously let down by the person who is supposed to love her, protect her and care for her.

Something needs to change. We HAVE to stop making it out that girls should dress differently to avoid giving guys the wrong idea. To not walk home alone because ‘their just asking for it then’. To stop fearing to speak up because they might be labelled liars.

The media play a big role here. They’re our biggest influencers.

Just because he doesn’t look like an abuser doesn’t mean he isn’t one. Just because he has money doesn’t mean she’s lying to profit.

Instead of getting on the hate bandwagon, maybe ask yourself.

What if it happened to me? What would you do? What would you be afraid of?

there is no reason to be jealous over someone else. everyone was born with a unique set of traits and qualities. let them shine with what they have, and you shine with what you have. don't bring others down. its not worth your time, and it just shows the type of person you are when you try to hurt someone else.:

 

Perspective is key in this world. Always try to put yourself in another situation before you comment on another person’s actions.

And also. Be courageous. Whatever the possible outcome stand up for yourself. Stand up for someone else. Don’t ever let someone tear you down, make you feel worthless or less of a person than you are.

Keep this quote in mind when you're going through tough times:

I’ve never had anything like this happen to me. But I’d still like to thank the victim of the Stanford Rape case for coming forward. She spoke up. And now there’s more talk. There’s change. There’s a difference. I applaud this woman. And so should you.

Thanks for reading.

Let me know your thoughts are below!

-G xo

p.s check my twitter for a link to the video the cast of ‘Girls’ made dedicated to the victim. A powerful piece of women standing together-love it!