One of those weeksย 

Well this last week has been weird for me. Long story short I’ve been feeling pretty crappy about myself. It started with the official end to my first year of college. And like always with endings, I reflected. For some reason I couldn’t really appreciate the positives as much as I wallowed in the negatives-the regrets. I’d rather not go into detail about this though.

Then came tuesday morning- when I broke down crying before heading into college. The reason for this will sound a little shallow but the tears were triggered by my hair. As I mentioned in my march reflection post I got my hair cut. However, since then I just haven’t been happy with it. It doesn’t feel nice and I don’t tend to like how it looks and think about this throughout the day. I know reading this you’re probably thinking oh my god get over yourself, there are people who are suffering and your bothered about your hair-how pathetic. And yes I totally agree its ridiculous. Along with this issue that morning I was upset about my appearance-my skin.

I decided the day before not to bother doing my makeup because there was no point- I’m not good at doing makeup and I would probably look better without it #freshfaced. Hahah no that is not how it was on tuesday morning. To say the least I looked like crap! I had circles under my eyes, red patches on my cheeks ad dry eye lids. To top it off I picked the MOST casual outfit- I looked like such a slob.

So there you had me- with messy hair (greasy I’ll admit and the damn dry shampoo failed me #typical) , THE most laid back look and the look of death (because on day two study week had already killed me). I was sick of myself. Sick of not liking what I say in the mirror. I never used to be like this but I knew what had made me become this way. One word. College.

Don’t get me wrong I believe people when they say this is the high point of your life-studying what you love-meeting new people-trying new things and having the least amount of responsibilities you’ll probably ever have. However, maybe just in my case, but suddenly I am the most aware I’ve ever been of my appearance. I went from never wearing makeup during the week, wearing a uniform everyday and not really taking myself too seriously when it came to my hair and as for skin well sure it was grand for school. I went to an all girls school so this was kind of standard- we all looked ok at best so why bother worrying, we didn’t need to impress each other.

But college is a whole other story. There is no uniform its the ultimate free for all, wear what you want. We each have our own take on this, but I’ll probably get into this in more detail in another post- the college observation. So lads I feel like, are forever checking girls out- who/what they like. I think I’m just a blur here. Then there’s the fact that girls care about how they look and we’re judgemental, put that together and you have me so self-conscious about how I look and what others will think. It’s exhausting. Usually I’m grand but this week it reached a high.

I didn’t really want anyone to see me. I didn’t want to see myself. I had my cry, got a hug from my mom and then pulled myself together and put it to the back of my mind. I let myself wallow when I got home. This sort of routine continued for the week. And during this week of wallowing I decided to make it worse by eating crap- I ‘ve already noticed a weight gain why I decided to add to this is the question of the week.

I don’t like feeling this way. I’m not the most confident person, but still I don’t get bothered by these things as much as I have these last few months and especially this last week.And that’s not ok. To re-iterate my message in my last post- you create your own happiness. No one else is going to make me feel any better about how I look, I have to do that myself. I feel like this happens with all girls. We each have that part(s) that we’re not very fond of and we’re masters at self ridicule, but we need to learn to tone it down. I think its good to be a little self aware. Keep ourselves in line, humble. But too much and it ruins us.

 Next week I need to be nicer to myself, eat good foods that won’t leave me bloated and feeling huge, maybe push myself to go for more walks and definitely try new things to be happy with my skin-get that glow!

It’s tough being a girl. It’s hard not judging ourselves so much. I’ll get my mojo back and this will happen again. It’s a rough cycle. But like I said I make myself happy. If I don’t want to feel crappy than I have to do something about it. 


So that’s it for me bitching about myself. Hope you had a better week than I did. ๐Ÿ™‚

xoxo-G

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Making it happen for ourselves.

Unemployment part 2 ๐Ÿ˜€

I wanted to continue on with my last post about being unemployed because I feel like there’s still more to be said on this topic.

First of all let’s just re-iterate that yes it bloody well sucks!ย Phew-ok now that’s out of our systems completely-moving on(sort of)….

In my last post I spoke about my experience of having no job and the effect its had on me. Today though I want to focus a little bit more on some positives. I always feel bad when I’ve finished a big rant because I think that even when a situation is bad we are more than capable of finding a light in that dark tunnel-we make our on happiness. I won’t go too much into this philosophical topic today though (might leave that for a dreary monday ;D )

It’s pretty obvious that having too much free time on our hands for a substantial amount of time isn’t good. When you’ve nothing to do or no where to go you can fall into this dark hole. You start off really enjoying the lie ins, watching endless tv, having free reign of the house while everyone is out and then getting to make plans with your friends whenever you like because YOU ARE ALWAYS FREE. But the magic of this time eventually fades and when it does, well you know how it feels. I will put my hand up and say that when I finished the leaving cert (final high school equivalent exams) I did not know what to do with myself. I though I would enjoy the day, not having any study or work to do. This was great except it came to a point where I wasn’t leaving the house because I didn’t have anything to go to. My friends were all either working or on holiday.

Laziness is the worst thing that happens when you don’t have a job, and the feeling of hopelessness from not having a job mixed with laziness is a recipe for a very dull feeling person. This is why it is so important that you keep yourself busy. Don’t roll your eyes I mean it. Even if you haven’t got ย a job that pays there is still plenty you can do with your time, take it from a person who has had to figure this out.

  1. Volunteer- Now this is something I’ve been meaning to do for ages but just haven’t and I can’t really say why I just haven’t got it sorted yet. BUT, this is a brilliant way to use your time and make it valuable. I know that lots of charity shops are always looking for workers to volunteer their time. This is perfect for those of us who can’t seem to get a job in a shop because we have no experince- find your experience. Work in a charity shop for a couple of months even part time and have that as something you can add to the work experience.
  2. Pick a hobby/learn a new skills- I know it seems a little yeah yeah I know, but seriously do this. It makes sense that instead of wallowing on what isn’t going right find something that can take up your attention and take your mind of things. I know I’ve got learn how to play the violin on my list of things to do. I’m hoping to try and get started on this in the summer.
  3. Perfect a talent- Maybe before when you were in school or college you didn’t have the time to devote to certain things. Now that you do why not focus on your skills/interests/talents and see where you go with these.
  4. Update- Keep looking at and reading your cv. There’s always little tweaks here and there that you could be making. Maybe change the order of things, add new hobbies, look at some new font style (but not really crazy one though keep it simple!)

It might seem like the worst thing ever but this can also be a very valuable time too. As I’ve been on the job hunt I’ve decided to turn to my writing to keep myself productive and that’s really how I started this blog. I’ve also gotten involved with some clubs/groups in the college and organised events. I’ve even written a few articles for the college paper. It’s funny how these things though they don’t pay (and money is definitely something I need at the moment-social life hello!) they have been a lot of fun and actually kept me sane.

The more things you have to do the more productive you are and probably the more satisfied you are. It’s up to at the end of the day. You can either wallow in self-pity or you can get up off your ass and make things happen for yourself. Things aren’t handed to us and if we want something we have to get it ourselves. I say this to myself by the way because I am so guilty of letting the self-pity thing happen.

I’m not sure if this has made anyone feel better but if it did-great!

Blog lesson of the day ๐Ÿ™‚ : even though it’s needed, money doesn’t mean everything- it certainly doesn’t always bring happiness.

xo -G

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That dreaded ‘U’ word

…Unemployment.

So contrary to what many of the older generation might say, us 18-30 year olds do not have it easy. Before you could get a job with no qualification/experience and buy and house and get a mortgage in your early twenties. Which is what a lot of our parents did- mine did anyway.

I think I speak for most people my age (18) when I say that mortgages aren’t really on my mind. But the job thing definitely is.

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I’m currently in my first year of college-just about to finish-and throughout the year I have emailed and gone out handing out cv’s looking for a job. And a whole bunch of nothing is what I’ve got.

I have no experience, which has been my greatest downfall. For the last number of years I didn’t need to get a job in a shop/business because I was kept well busy (and paid) with babysitting. Now though that has kind of gone away and I’m in serious need of a so called “real job”.

Needless to say this whole lack of a job thing has put quite a downer on my college social life, seeing that I never really have any money. It’s the biggest disappointment. I feel like a failure every time my parents have to give me money for lunch, like I’m still a child.

It’s been very disheartening, constantly going into places handing in cv’s and wait for the phone to ring or get an email- but it never happens.

Sure it’s great having a sleep in at the weekend and only having college work to focus on but I’m a person who is at her best when she’s productive. I’m an ambitious person, so I love it when I work at something and then get that feeling of accomplishment.

I’m sure there’s others out there who are just saying “I hear ya gurl” ๐Ÿ˜‰ as they read this and here’s what I have to say to those. As crushing to the confidence as it is we have to push on. Life’s a bitch sometimes and maybe even a lot of the time. But I know that life will feel like a black hole if we see it that way. Life is all about perception and outlook- I think everything happens for a reason. So, when I’m putting myself down for being unemployed or I don’t want to go out job hunting anymore, I just let myself have that bad moment and then I tell myself to cope on and get over myself.

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There’s always a brightside-it’s tough looking for a job but it will happen-we have to stop ourselves from getting too caught up with this struggle
To those that do have jobs-well done you lucky ducks. If you hate but need it, try to push past it and at least look on the bright side of having money coming your way. ๐Ÿ˜‰

It will happen- that call/email will come. Until it does I’m going to push on and keep trying. It sucks but jesus there’ll be something next year that’s going to suck and the same the year after that. ๐Ÿ™‚

Better go and check those job sites and review my cv for the millionth time ๐Ÿ˜€

Until next time ladies and possibly gents,

Stay classy and don’t be nasty xo

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P.S May the odds be ever in your favour-Happy job hunting

 

 

April Fools

Hey dolls!

April fools, not really a day I’ve ever bothered too much about but this year the day of joking got me thinking.

According to wikipedia definitions, April Fools day is a day whereby people play practical jokes on one another and spread hoaxes. The idea is that you make someone believe something and then when they learn the truth you all have a good laugh about it. Having said that, sometimes people go too far and instead of making a funny prank/joke they instead hurt and insult others.

An example of this that I’m thinking of is the one where a woman announces she pregnant and before the end of the day shouts “April fools I’m kidding I’m not pregnant”.

On the day of April 1st I saw two women in particular announce their “pregnancy” on social media. Both were very influential females with a significant fan base. Singer, Gwen Stefani and Fashion and lifestyle blogger Chriselle Lim.

Gwen posted a sonogram picture of a baby with the caption “It’s a girl”. Now Gwen did later defend her action by saying she was making fun of the tabloids who continuously claim she’s pregnant. While she never intended to hurt anyones feelings surely she could understand that by posting a joke like this would ruffle some feathers, especially as she is a mother herself

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Blogger Chriselle dropped the bombshell on her snapchat before later appearing with her daughter ( 1 year old chloe) and admitting she was lying. Again a mother herself, could she not predict that this was an insensitive joke. Fans even heard the blogger explain further that she has friends going through IVF treatment and that her and husband Allen would like to one day have another child.

 

I’m not losing my crap over this. I don’t agree with their choice of hoax for the day but I do understand that they were not intentionally hurting anyones feeling.

Still this just goes to show that you never know what someones going through and what might hurt them. As two women who have lots of followers I would have expected they not be so naive and have more respect for them. Maybe the two have learnt their lessons.

*I will still continue to follow Chriselles blog journey just fyi. I am not hating on either women, merely just discussing their actions.We all make mistakes anyway.

So guys what do you think? Did they go too far or are some of us just not able to take the joke and run with it? Let me know in the comments.

Now to lighten up the mood a little ! ๐Ÿ˜€

I just replaced the can of air freshener in the office bathroom with an air horn. And now we wait...ย April Fool's Day                                            please follow me on pinterest:

Keep it classy and don’t be nasty! ๐Ÿ™‚

-G

*DISCLAIMER: All images are not my own. They were located from google images off other sites.

Blue January

Hey dolls!

Blogging isn’t quite what I thought it was. I had this idea in my head that every week I would have 2-3 amazing posts to upload but I found myself not doing this. I would type up a post and then at the end just save it to drafts and never do anything with it. I was becoming so picky with every sentence that I just ended up putting myself down and saying it was a stupid post that no one would want to read. The thing is I’m trying to ignore the thought of people reading these posts, which sounds ridiculous I know this is a blog after all, but I was so self-conscious about my writing that I hated the idea of someone reading my work.

It’s now February and so far this year I’ve uploaded one post, pretty pathetic. There are a few other reasons for this. Since starting college I feel I have become lazier and less productive. Another reason for the lack of writing is due to the month of January. It wasn’t just blue monday it was blue january for me. Needles to say I was happy for the crappy monday-like month to be over.

I really frustrate myself because I’m so ambitious yet I never get around to actually doing the things I say I want to. I like the feeling of content and a lot of my ambitions require me to step outside of my comfort zone. But this week I am making the effort to get past this issue and do things. I’m going ย to write two blog post (including this one), I’m going to write an article to hopefully be printed in the college newspaper and hopefully one other thing that I haven’t decided on yet.

I wish I could give you guys some tips for being productive but I don’t really have many. But if you want to stay organised and get jobs done I recommend making out to do lists. I prefer doing weekly to-do lists because it feels less over-whelming to me but daily ones can work just as well. Usually my to-list is the things I have to get done for college such as readings or projects etc.. but I might also write in something I need to get done like to put a clothes wash on. I’m more likely to complete tasks if I have a to-do list because otherwise I’m likely to forget about it. There is also a sense of satisfaction when you tick off completed tasks.

Another tip I have which isn’t fun and many of you will roll your eyes and groan at it but it’s to wake up early. I’m being genuinely serious, when I get up at 6:40 I have the entire day to do maybe three things on my list. This means I can spend the required time studying and getting work done and then when I’m finished there is still plenty of time left to relax. The plus side to this is that I don’t feel guilty and I’ve noticed that I sleep better on these days. Now I don’t wake up this early everyday, maybe two days a week, but a lot of the time if I’m having a lie in I’ll go into college for the afternoon, attend my lectures and what-not and then I’ll stay in the library for a few hours in the evening so i can get my work done. I don’t know how I did it for the Leaving cert but I definitely can’t do my college work at home, so it’s the library for me.

I know they are only two tips but I think everyone has their own ways of getting things done and being productive. I know that when I was in my final year of school the terror of not getting into college and disappointing my family pushed me to study hard. However college isn’t quite like this, there’s more time to study because you’re not in class all day and there isn’t quite the same fear, maybe that’s part of the reason I’ve been so lazy .

And now please enjoy these motivational pics that I copied and pasted from Pinterest! ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

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Now that it’s February I’m trying to do my best to feel good this month and get my sh*t together. Wish me luck!

Alrighty well that’s enough of me venting- I’ve gotta go do my English assignment that’s due this Friday! #procratinatingtillthelastweek #collegelife

-G

Time for reflection and Hot chocolate

Hello Lovelies!

I can’t quite believe that it’s January whaaaat! I mean where has the time gone- I swear it was September just last week. Since I started college the semester just flew by and before I knew it I was on christmas break and now suddenly that’s over too. Now that it’s the new year I’m back on the blogging ย train and ready to share some of my most random and deepest thoughts

Here are just some pics which remind me of the good times in 2015.

 

I’ve thought a lot about the last year, what happened and how I’ve changed. I’ll be honest this has not been the best year and I’m actually looking forward to the fresh start 2016 brings.

I was tested in 2015, my strength was tested and although it was tough I can honestly say that I am better off for it.(Quick disclaimer I know I sound dramatic here- nothing crazy serious happened just life in general). I realised that I had to make some changes and take a look at my life; the people that were in it and my character. I’m not proud of all my behaviour, not just this year but in the last few years and I would like to change a couple of things. However, I don’t have too many regrets because I accept that what happened happened for a reason. I also had to decide who was best for me in my life and that was one of the hardest things to do.

I think I’ve grown up a lot this year. I have more respect for people and the life that I have. I’ve learned that I have to work hard for what I want because things don’t always just fall into place. I’ve also seen first hand what it’s like to make some sacrifices for the people who mean the most to you.

I’m so proud of my parents. In my growing up more this year I’ve realised more of what they do everyday and how much they have to deal with. They’re so strong, I don;t know how they do it but I suppose it’s like that for a lot of us-we never get how our parents do all that they do. They’ve been so supportive and I can honestly say that I wouldn’t have been able to get through this year without them. They pushed me to be better, to dream and to never believe that I can’t do something.

I hope that I can take what I learnt in 2015 and make 2016 a better year. I haven’t got much plans yet for the next 12 months but I do ย want to do something special each month. I feel positive at the beginning of this year something I didn’t have last. I want to enjoy myself, I mean I’m 18 and in college, life is good at the moment and I’ll never be where I am now again so I want to soak it up, get involved in different clubs and meet as many new people as I can!

To finish I have three new years resolutions

  1. To push myself outside of my comfort zone
  2. To stop putting myself down so much and laugh at my awkward moments rather than punish myself for them
  3. To let loose more and enjoy the moments, and not to worry so much about regrets or the future.

Obviously if at the end of the year I had been to the gym regularly and got fit that would be nice too but I’m not going to call fitness a resolution because chances are I won’t achieve that one ๐Ÿ˜€

 

Happy New Year and all I wish for you this year is that you learn to be happy in your self because that is one of the most important things! And to all my peeps studying for their upcoming mock exams ‘stay strong sweeties!’ it’s only the practice round. Study hard but take time out to relax and make sure ye are still getting a good nights sleep and laughing.THEIR IS LIFE AFTER THE LEAVING CERT contrary to popular belief- you’ll make it!

Bye for now ๐Ÿ™‚

-G

2016 please be good to me! ๐Ÿ™‚

 

My First Draft

(Or maybe the third ๐Ÿ˜€ )

Hello lovelies!ย 

(eek I can’t believe I’m doing this again!)

So I’m going to be honest and admit that this is not the first time I have blogged, it’s actually the third. I started, well you wouldn’t even call it a blog because it only consisted of one post, but about two years ago. I never told anyone and it wasn’t a big deal, just me being bored and writing about whatever was on my mind. Then last year I got the great idea to start a blog about my personal style. Long story short I didn’t really commit to it and I just abandoned it all together after a few months. I just wasn’t happy with the pictures I was using or what I was writing about.

I really want it to be different this time. This blog isn’t going to necessarily be a fashion or my personal style. Although, there will be a few posts because I do love fashion and I take pride in dressing well so I would like to document some of that here but I don’t want this to just be a personal style blog. Mainly because there are already so many amazing ones out there already.

This blog is just going to be me. My writing. My thoughts. My adventures. My life. I know that sounds really narcissistic but I’m trying to sound vain I just mean that I’ll be writing about my life experiences or what’s going on in the world that I’m interested in. This sounds very broad I know but I suppose the truth is I still don’t yet really know what kind of a blog this will be, I think I’ll just learn as I go along.

I hope you follow me along as I try to figure out what to do with my life, what to do with my hair, where to go on my next adventure and try and look like I have my life together when really I’m the awkward chick who well just always acts awkward.

xo Georgia