It’s the little things.

Following from my last blog post I thought ‘well I can’t really dish all of that negativity (yet realness) out and leave it there’.

So here are my tips for keeping positive.

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1.Let yourself off the hook.

It’s okay to have “those day”. Why wouldn’t it be? I don’t understand why anyone can judge a person for not being fine and having no reason, or even a reason that doesn’t seem worth it. We’re human. And life… well it can be crappy. So let yourself be. Accept your crappy mood. And to hell with everyone else. If you want me time then have your me time. Sometimes it does us the world of good to have a shut down period.

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2. A clean space is a clean mind.

Sometimes the best thing for us is to put a playlist on and get to work organising and cleaning our bedrooms. This gives us time to just be with our thoughts. Dance around. Sing into the deodorant or hairbrush and clear out any clutter. It’s no science that a clear space is a clear mind. It’s a day where you reflect. Or maybe even forget what was bothering you in the first place and by the time you remember you’ve either figured out a solution, you’re ready to face it or better yet, you don’t care anymore.

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3.Music to my ears

Is it really shameful that certain songs can be really insightful and actually make me feel better? Well that’s the truth. Honestly. Going for a walk while playing the likes of London Grammar, Coldplay, Hans Zimmer and other, does me the world of good. Again its that simple me time. Shutting off from social media and just being with my thoughts. I’d recommend going for a walk somewhere quiet. I’m lucky enough to live in the countryside so a walk is always refreshing. Cities can be good for people-watching but then there’s always the issue of running into people you know and that interrupts me time.

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4. Dear Diary

Do what I did. Write down what’s bothering you. What you’re feeling. What’s going on in your life. You don’t have to share this publicly like I did, that’s the best part, it can be completely private. Your deepest thoughts tucked away in a notebook hidden away even. Or write a draft email if you prefer the new age technological form of journalling (I’m old school and appreciate the humble pen and paper). This might sound strange too but you could always write your thoughts on a sheet of paper and then throw it in the fire or rip it up and throw it away.

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5.Cooking (or baking, whatever floats your boat)

You need to eat so why not use this as a way of distracting yourself. Challenge yourself by not going by a recipe and picking out random ingredients from the cupboards. It could be a complete disaster but at least it’s something.

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6. Reading

Fall into another world. Get inside someone else’s head. I love how characters can feel like real people in your life. Their situations can be relatable and insightful. Don’t underestimate the power of a good book.

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Ahhh the power of a cuppa and a mag!
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Bonus points if you know what book this is!

So there we have it. I can’t promise this will change your life and extinguish all sources of bother, but they might help for a little while. It’s all about distractions, until the mood passes and you’re all good again.

“Being positive in a negative situation is not being naive. It’s leadership”

-Lead your life in the direction you want.

 

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Hate Reading

What is hate reading you might ask. Well according to the Dictionary.com it is

to read (a blog, newspaper, etc.) that one professes to dislike, often with the intention to mock or criticize.

Basically you’re actively visiting a site on the web just so you can bitch about the individual  associated.

It’s a very vicious activity but we all do it,  the scary thing is we might not realise we’re actually doing it.

This post was inspired by an article I read in Stellar Magazine (June 2016 issue). Truth be told I had never even heard of the term hate reading let alone know what it was. After reading the article I realised that I probably do it too, maybe not every day and I can’t think of a particular page I do it to, not that I’d even say, but I know I do it.

Now don’t get me wrong it doesn’t mean we’re bad people. The cause of this just falls back on natural human behaviours that are jealousy, curiosity, and boredom.

While the internet has opened up a lot of wonderful doors it has as we’re all aware of released our inner monsters.

We’ve become accustomed to the selfie upload (which I do myself) and wait in anticipation for the likes to roll in. Don’t lie you do it too. And I probably won’t stop because ya if i’m feeling my look then I will. The issue here is when we start to view and critique others. Ooh look at the liner FAIL, why is her head tilted so far left FAIL lol poser, wow he’s so into himself-get over it.

Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness.:

Now thinking these thoughts is one thing. But going out of your way to seek out these pages just so you can critique them is another. You may be the nicest person, the most loyal friend and a devoted family member but you are not bettering yourself as a person by these actions. It makes you more conceited, judgmental and inhibits your ability to not base your opinion of a person besides their insta page or twitter feed or even criticising them from your first impression.

Believe me because this is true, because I was like this. Over the last couple of years, from being influenced by those around me (I went to all girl school-think that speaks for itself)  and social media I became more judgemental. I did the above in my head, I never said it to their faces but I did bitch A LOT. Now 18 and in college I’ve told myself to grow up, cop on and get over myself, because a judgmental personality is an ugly personality. I tried to mask it as best I could, but I’m pretty sure my poker face wasn’t always on point. In fact it’s ended up hurting me now, well they do say karma’s a bitch only if you are!

However the one thing I never did, and never will is give into the hate read temptation and actually post my thoughts.

This is where things have gone too far and you can’t defend yourself with Oh its just an innocent thought, no, because now its an action. This is where you’ve actually crossed the line over to being an online troll, a bully.

Her opening line when I heard her speak, so powerful. treat people the way you would want to be treated!!!!! Old saying, but great advice.:

Now most people wouldn’t consider themselves bullies but this is where our idea of what a bully is needs to be fully understood. If you go out of your way to publicly humiliate someone and attempt to make them feel bad about themselves then yes you are a bully. It’s all about the choices we make. They chose to post what they did, it’s their right. But you chose to speak out negatively. Just because they posted doesn’t mean they gave you permission to say what you said.

 If you wouldn’t say it to their face or scream it in a room full of people, then why is it ok to say it online.

Stick to this to check yourself; If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.

Be kind lovelies,

-G xo

What they don’t tell you.

It seems forever since I last wrote a post but things got very busy.

I went into full force study mode, getting up at 7am going into the library for 8 hours coming home, having dinner watching a little tv and then going to bed and repeating this routine for 4 weeks. I didn’t really have the time nor the energy to post anything and I definitely didn’t feel very creative. But ya gotta do what ya gotta do.

In the spirit of exams season I wanted to share here how I got through the study blues. These aren’t the typical things people tell you but this is how I survived.

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Just to get it out of the way studying for exams can be very draining. BUT- they do end and when they do you at least what to know that you did everything you could, you tried your hardest. “What if” haunts me which is why I dived straight in and was all-consumed with working hard.

I’ll enjoy the summer far more knowing that even if the grades aren’t amazing that I worked my booty off.

Sleep-What I will suggest is that if you can try to designate one morning to a sleep in. I would recommend saturday morning just because by friday you’re so tired from the whole week that your desperate for some zzz’s so having even just one morning of 2/3 hours extra sleep will do you the world of good. When I’m studying I usually get up around 7am and start studying around 8:30/9. But if its a sleep in day i’ll wake up at 11 and start working at 12/1pm.

This is like a little treat for yourself which is basically going to be the message of this entire post- how to treat yo self to get through this time. 

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Comfy clothes- goes without saying but add a pop of culture to your outfit to help boost your mood
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These penneys shoes were ideal-super comfy and they matched everything! Winning

COFFEE IS YOUR BEST FRIEND. This pretty much goes without saying but I do have some tips for this one. Firstly if you’re studying in a library or elsewhere and you’re going to a cafe to get your coffee then buy one of those reusable cups and bring it with you. The cost is less and though it may only be a 20c difference it all adds up. Considering I was getting at least one coffee pretty much everyday it definitely added up so by making this small change I was saving the equivalent of 1 cup a week. Also to be healthier I would switch to americano’s. Lattes have so much milk i.e. fat and when you think that you’re sitting down all day long then this too adds up plus you get more of a caffeine kick from black coffee.

Wear makeup everyday. I know I should promote the whole fresh faced look but I’m not gonna lie; I looked liked crap most days during the last few weeks. My skin did not appreciate the library air, or the lack of fresh air and sunshine on my face. Doing my makeup in the morning made me feel ready to start the day. When you’re working all day you can also start to feel a little crabby so looking nice and put together just gives you a little bit of confidence and helps you face the day. If you don’t feel good then this will out you in a bad mood that will affect how productive you are in the day.

A little bit of tele never hurt nobody- Give yourself something to look forward to after a long day. I have series to catch up on nearly everyday like grey’s anatomy, made in chelsea, rich kids, home and away and neighbours etc. If you have been working all day in school and completed 2-4 hours in the evening then yes of course you deserve to chill out with your favourite show maybe even binge watch a series in the week-an episode a night:)

The most important thing to keep in mind when it comes to tests and study is that YOU CAN DO IT. I truly believed that I was stupid and not capable of doing the leaving cert but I got through it and I did it. It surprised me that I could but it made me realise that you can do more than you think and more importantly there is life after the LC.

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A positive mind sees positive results. Someone once told me that you get what you give. Don’t have yourself ending up saying “what if”. Push yourself and try your very best and that is more than enough.

Best of luck chickas and remember to breath 🙂

xo -G

 

 

Making it happen for ourselves.

Unemployment part 2 😀

I wanted to continue on with my last post about being unemployed because I feel like there’s still more to be said on this topic.

First of all let’s just re-iterate that yes it bloody well sucks! Phew-ok now that’s out of our systems completely-moving on(sort of)….

In my last post I spoke about my experience of having no job and the effect its had on me. Today though I want to focus a little bit more on some positives. I always feel bad when I’ve finished a big rant because I think that even when a situation is bad we are more than capable of finding a light in that dark tunnel-we make our on happiness. I won’t go too much into this philosophical topic today though (might leave that for a dreary monday ;D )

It’s pretty obvious that having too much free time on our hands for a substantial amount of time isn’t good. When you’ve nothing to do or no where to go you can fall into this dark hole. You start off really enjoying the lie ins, watching endless tv, having free reign of the house while everyone is out and then getting to make plans with your friends whenever you like because YOU ARE ALWAYS FREE. But the magic of this time eventually fades and when it does, well you know how it feels. I will put my hand up and say that when I finished the leaving cert (final high school equivalent exams) I did not know what to do with myself. I though I would enjoy the day, not having any study or work to do. This was great except it came to a point where I wasn’t leaving the house because I didn’t have anything to go to. My friends were all either working or on holiday.

Laziness is the worst thing that happens when you don’t have a job, and the feeling of hopelessness from not having a job mixed with laziness is a recipe for a very dull feeling person. This is why it is so important that you keep yourself busy. Don’t roll your eyes I mean it. Even if you haven’t got  a job that pays there is still plenty you can do with your time, take it from a person who has had to figure this out.

  1. Volunteer- Now this is something I’ve been meaning to do for ages but just haven’t and I can’t really say why I just haven’t got it sorted yet. BUT, this is a brilliant way to use your time and make it valuable. I know that lots of charity shops are always looking for workers to volunteer their time. This is perfect for those of us who can’t seem to get a job in a shop because we have no experince- find your experience. Work in a charity shop for a couple of months even part time and have that as something you can add to the work experience.
  2. Pick a hobby/learn a new skills- I know it seems a little yeah yeah I know, but seriously do this. It makes sense that instead of wallowing on what isn’t going right find something that can take up your attention and take your mind of things. I know I’ve got learn how to play the violin on my list of things to do. I’m hoping to try and get started on this in the summer.
  3. Perfect a talent- Maybe before when you were in school or college you didn’t have the time to devote to certain things. Now that you do why not focus on your skills/interests/talents and see where you go with these.
  4. Update- Keep looking at and reading your cv. There’s always little tweaks here and there that you could be making. Maybe change the order of things, add new hobbies, look at some new font style (but not really crazy one though keep it simple!)

It might seem like the worst thing ever but this can also be a very valuable time too. As I’ve been on the job hunt I’ve decided to turn to my writing to keep myself productive and that’s really how I started this blog. I’ve also gotten involved with some clubs/groups in the college and organised events. I’ve even written a few articles for the college paper. It’s funny how these things though they don’t pay (and money is definitely something I need at the moment-social life hello!) they have been a lot of fun and actually kept me sane.

The more things you have to do the more productive you are and probably the more satisfied you are. It’s up to at the end of the day. You can either wallow in self-pity or you can get up off your ass and make things happen for yourself. Things aren’t handed to us and if we want something we have to get it ourselves. I say this to myself by the way because I am so guilty of letting the self-pity thing happen.

I’m not sure if this has made anyone feel better but if it did-great!

Blog lesson of the day 🙂 : even though it’s needed, money doesn’t mean everything- it certainly doesn’t always bring happiness.

xo -G

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Blue January

Hey dolls!

Blogging isn’t quite what I thought it was. I had this idea in my head that every week I would have 2-3 amazing posts to upload but I found myself not doing this. I would type up a post and then at the end just save it to drafts and never do anything with it. I was becoming so picky with every sentence that I just ended up putting myself down and saying it was a stupid post that no one would want to read. The thing is I’m trying to ignore the thought of people reading these posts, which sounds ridiculous I know this is a blog after all, but I was so self-conscious about my writing that I hated the idea of someone reading my work.

It’s now February and so far this year I’ve uploaded one post, pretty pathetic. There are a few other reasons for this. Since starting college I feel I have become lazier and less productive. Another reason for the lack of writing is due to the month of January. It wasn’t just blue monday it was blue january for me. Needles to say I was happy for the crappy monday-like month to be over.

I really frustrate myself because I’m so ambitious yet I never get around to actually doing the things I say I want to. I like the feeling of content and a lot of my ambitions require me to step outside of my comfort zone. But this week I am making the effort to get past this issue and do things. I’m going  to write two blog post (including this one), I’m going to write an article to hopefully be printed in the college newspaper and hopefully one other thing that I haven’t decided on yet.

I wish I could give you guys some tips for being productive but I don’t really have many. But if you want to stay organised and get jobs done I recommend making out to do lists. I prefer doing weekly to-do lists because it feels less over-whelming to me but daily ones can work just as well. Usually my to-list is the things I have to get done for college such as readings or projects etc.. but I might also write in something I need to get done like to put a clothes wash on. I’m more likely to complete tasks if I have a to-do list because otherwise I’m likely to forget about it. There is also a sense of satisfaction when you tick off completed tasks.

Another tip I have which isn’t fun and many of you will roll your eyes and groan at it but it’s to wake up early. I’m being genuinely serious, when I get up at 6:40 I have the entire day to do maybe three things on my list. This means I can spend the required time studying and getting work done and then when I’m finished there is still plenty of time left to relax. The plus side to this is that I don’t feel guilty and I’ve noticed that I sleep better on these days. Now I don’t wake up this early everyday, maybe two days a week, but a lot of the time if I’m having a lie in I’ll go into college for the afternoon, attend my lectures and what-not and then I’ll stay in the library for a few hours in the evening so i can get my work done. I don’t know how I did it for the Leaving cert but I definitely can’t do my college work at home, so it’s the library for me.

I know they are only two tips but I think everyone has their own ways of getting things done and being productive. I know that when I was in my final year of school the terror of not getting into college and disappointing my family pushed me to study hard. However college isn’t quite like this, there’s more time to study because you’re not in class all day and there isn’t quite the same fear, maybe that’s part of the reason I’ve been so lazy .

And now please enjoy these motivational pics that I copied and pasted from Pinterest! 🙂 🙂

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Now that it’s February I’m trying to do my best to feel good this month and get my sh*t together. Wish me luck!

Alrighty well that’s enough of me venting- I’ve gotta go do my English assignment that’s due this Friday! #procratinatingtillthelastweek #collegelife

-G